The Relationship Health Calculator looks at one specific question inside relational psychology and attachment research: what do your the dynamics at play actually add up to? Instead of a vague feeling, it converts the everyday signals you already notice — previous relationship length, ability to state needs & boundaries, time single since breakup, time invested in yourself since — into a single score you can track, compare and act on.
The model is built on attachment theory, emotional-recovery modeling and relationship-transition research, the same foundation as our flagship relationship calculator. Each input is weighted by how strongly that factor predicts real outcomes in the research; the formula and every weight are published below, so you can see exactly why your score is what it is — and argue with it if you like.
Adjust the sliders to match your situation honestly and the score updates live, along with the strongest factors pushing it up or down. Like everything on Quirkulator, the computation runs entirely in your browser: nothing you enter is ever transmitted or stored.
The formula
w1·prior len- Previous relationship length (weight +0.6)
w2·boundaries- Ability to state needs & boundaries (weight -0.7)
w3·gap- Time single since breakup (weight -1)
w4·self time- Time invested in yourself since — hobbies, therapy, friends, growth (weight -0.8)
w5·processed- How processed does the breakup feel? (weight -1.1)
σ, μ- Sigmoid squash to 0–100, centered on typical values
How it works, step by step
- Rate each input honestly — the Relationship Health score is only as good as your self-assessment.
- Watch the live score and note which factor the result panel names as your strongest driver.
- Read your band below — each range comes with a concrete recommended next step.
- Change one input to simulate a change in behavior and see how much the score moves — that sensitivity is the real insight.
- Re-take the assessment after a few weeks; trends across readings mean far more than any single score.
Worked examples
A low-signal scenario
With every input set well below typical — the quiet version of this situation — the model returns 80, landing in the “Still bleeding” band. Your signals match post-processing readiness: the past is integrated, boundaries are articulate, and connection would be a want rather than a need.
A high-signal scenario
Push the main drivers well above typical and the score rises to 10 — the “Genuinely ready” band. The attachment system is still in active grief. What feels like romantic hunger is likely pain relief — profoundly human, and worth naming honestly before someone new inherits it.
How to read your score
Frequently asked questions
What does the Relationship Health Calculator measure?
Emotional readiness signals drawn from attachment and breakup-recovery research: processing depth, healing time relative to relationship length, ex-contact, and the self-rebuilding work that predicts stable next relationships. Educational, not diagnostic.
Can this tell me whether my current relationship is a rebound?
It can tell you whether the conditions match the rebound pattern. What it cannot judge is the two of you — plenty of relationships with rebound-shaped origins mature into stable ones when both people process honestly.
Why does contact with my ex lower my score?
Ongoing contact — especially ambiguous, hope-flavored contact — keeps the attachment system partially engaged, which slows reorganization. Cordial closure differs from daily texting; the slider is asking about the second kind.
Is my relationship data private?
Completely — all computation is client-side in your browser. Nothing is transmitted or stored.
How long should I wait after a breakup?
There is no universal number — the research keys on ratios and behaviors, not calendars. Useful signals: the breakup story has become boring to tell, your ex’s social media is uninteresting, and you want a partner rather than an anesthetic.
Should I make relationship decisions based on this score?
Use it as a structured mirror, not a verdict. If the result names something you already suspected, that recognition — not the number — is the useful output. Big decisions deserve conversations, sometimes with a therapist.